The Ashes of Eden

Maybe someday
we'll find paradise.
and if that day comes
it will be because
we walked through hell
covered in the Ashes of Eden.

The Way is never easy,
it is a hidden Path.
It is found through
heart's broken door
grief is the key
to find the love
that was lost

Then maybe someday
we'll find paradise.
and if that day comes
it will be because
we carry with us
memories of the beauty of Eden

Let us breathe in
our sorrows,
and feel the weight
upon our shoulders
not make us weak,
but stronger in wisdom
broaden our compassion.

Then maybe someday
we'll find paradise.
and if that day comes
it will be because
we planted a garden
with the remembrance of Eden.

Through the seasons
and the passing of time
we live the Way
the home we build
holds all the treasures
of the world
we have discovered

Then maybe someday
we'll find paradise.
and if that day comes
it will be because
we have built it
out of the Ashes of Eden.

With This Ring...

How many times have I sat here, staring at my computer screen, trying to come up with the right words...

I've carried a ring in my pocket ever since I had heard that my son had been conceived. It's black titanium with a woven band, as dark and hard and beautiful as his mother's heart, with 7 rubies, her birthstone, like drops of blood fresh, a promise of life.

This is what this thing means for me today.

An engagement that will never be. A tragedy that was never given an opportunity to be anything else. For a while I pretended that it was my magical ring of shielding, and it protected my heart and mind from harm. I had to remind myself, that it was MY love that conceived that child, and it has always been my dream to be a good father and husband.

When I had started my journey from home, never did I think I would end up where I have been. I don't even know what to say. Today, my heart is the heaviest that it has ever been.  I don't even know what to do.

I wish for a Solstice miracle, to be honest.  I'm all out of options.

So maybe I'll tell you the reason I have such faith in love and kindness. Even if I lack such in myself at times. It's not some storybook fantasy of gods and romances.  I saw it, right before my eyes, and of all the things that I've sought in this world it was to exchange the acknowledgment of existence from somebody who knew who you were and loved you, all of you.

My great-grandparents exchanged that dance every morning that I could remember and it was the most beautiful thing that I think I could have seen before I met the mother of my son. And I wonder if my foolishness in wanting this for myself has led to so much disarray in my romantic life.  The problem being is that I've been absent that instruction, like many, except for what has been portrayed through a glass wall.

I've done my best to not leave any broken hearts, and I've for sure done a damn fine job of forgiving those that have broken mine.

Through vivid imaginations, then did I dream of her. She took contrast from my light within her void, and I was the source for all she felt divine.  I chased that dream through war and strife. And had it torn from me through greed and envy. I grew up believing in the greater good and honor and justice.  I see, now, that they are not inherent in humanity but needing of cultivation daily.  These are not things that are given to one, but that we give in opposition.

If I were to wish to see honor and justice and love prevail, I have to be the one to cultivate it within myself, establish a ripe and growing fruit, then sow the seeds amongst those that I meet in my life. And that maybe, my grand-children could one day sit in a society that has been blessed by a more enlightened design.

I have been present to bare witness to the worst that humanity has to offer in this world and the next. Hopefully, 2018 will show me the better side of life.

Fuck this stupid bullshit, Melissa.  I love you. After everything that I've seen and heard, the fact that I can still say that shit surprises me. But I've searched deep within myself, deep withing the withering core of my miserable existence, I found life and love.  It's miserable, and stupid, and I keep thinking to myself, "why is my heart such a glutton for such punishment?"

And I remember Thanksgiving of 2015, when we were dancing in Laura's house and I saw you.  And if a demon were to find me now in my loneliest of lonelies, and he offered a chance to experience it all again, the pain, the sorrow, the heartache.... for that one moment in your gaze I saw you, the true you, and I said to myself, "I hope that I never forget her face or that clever glint in her eyes. And I hope I never lose the love that I see reflected back at me."

And now I wonder if I'll ever see them again with anything resembling love in them. And my heart mourns while i sit here and wait for a Solstice miracle, with a ring that once represented all my hopes and dreams, wondering if that's all they will be.

PANTHEON: Introduction

“Your head's like mine, like all our heads; big enough to contain every god and devil there ever was. Big enough to hold the weight of oceans and the turning stars. Whole universes fit in there! But what do we choose to keep in this miraculous cabinet? Little broken things, sad trinkets that we play with over and over. The world turns our key and we play the same little tune again and again and we think that tune's all we are.” 
― Grant Morrison, The Invisibles, Vol. 1: Say You Want a Revolution

Near Pavilion Wyoming, I watched an event that has been classically portrayed in our mythologies as a portent of worldly doom.  Something that we now know as simply another turning of the celestial clock that we as conscious beings can stand in witness, awed by events more massive than we. Maybe the universe in us wants to be seen with its twin. And mine was somewhere lost in the void. So there, I stand alone with my heart and my fire transfixed by that void, like the sun's corona entwining around the dark side of his love for the whole of humanity to see.  And maybe in that mythology, Sol's love for Luna is seen as so pure, that it contains her darkness for all of us to see with our naked eyes.

If only it could be so easy to describe the novelties of human love. We have thousands of poets who scream at us through their obscure whispers of what they think it could be.  But it's never the same once you experience it.  And once you understand that what we experience is a tender glance while the universe carries on its celestial dance...  How much time have we wasted being distracted by inconsequential matters? Did I not give it all to love to overcome the greatest obstacle we all face, did I not bare my heart and soul, sacrifice my ego upon the alter of truth, only to have it wither into nothing?  And yet my finite existence within this universal timepiece ultimately means nothing, to be washed away with the winds and the tides.  The universal clock keeps ticking.  I keep breathing.

What did I ever want from this life? I never wanted this.  Never this.

The stories we tell help us understand our selves and the universe around us. What connects us to one another. Family ties, friendships, lovers, enemies, and even the random people that cross our paths. We weave ideas of where we belong and what we own, our interactions between our feelings reality. Outlining our identities and our sense of power.

Telling stories drives the human spirit.  Through the dark and the light.  We weave or the universe weaves for us.  We don't always have a choice, either. No matter if we are at the top of the mountain or being overran by a freight train, the universe keeps on going.

Are we adventurous enough to still climb that mountain after falling into a ravine?  Are we more powerful than the locomotive that directly confronts our soul? Or are we the skeletal remains at the bottom of that ravine, a testament to human limitations and a sign of risk for those who go to far..? or maybe for those who don't go far enough.

Do we possess the constitution, the depth of faith, to go as far as needed? When we've reached the edge are we willing to jump into the Abyss?  Can we create as God creates?  Met out Life and Death in equal fervor, balancing on the cusp of an atom, with solid and unmovable footing?

How do we tell these stories? Where do we start?  What principals govern our universe and to what Laws are we bound to?  How free are we to be an image of our Creator?What images of our world stay with us in our dreams?

With these questions, I'm going to create a Pantheon.

To Be Near Death

To Be Near Death
***

I had thought I was invincible. 
That I was going to conquer my world. 
Be the King of myself.
God was on my side.
How could I lose? 

Then I met her. 

Death.
Standing watch over me with raven hair and eyes the color of the purest turquoise.
Endlessly piercing the dark haze choking me in that hospital bed. 

Those that I had murdered in the name of God and Country in their infra-red glory.
Legions, it seemed, led by Thirteen that haunted my dreams. 
They stood there.
Waiting.
Emanating patience only the dead know. 
We all make it there. 
Now or later I would meet them in the Place of Judgement,
when mattered not. 
The inevitable weight of Fate.

When my life flashed before my eyes, I saw what was important to me. 
My family. 
Friends.
Love.
And Faith. 
Always that desperately unwavering faith. 

Then I saw myself for what I truly was.
A blind fool. 
A mad idiot.
A lost soul. 
Damned by ignorance.
My faith broke into nothing.

I was alone. 
No ever loving deity.
No only begotten son.
Just I gazing at Death. 

But I would not go quietly into that ghastly night.
I burned with rage at the dying of my light.

I didn't beg her to give me another chance. 
I didn't plead ignorance for my innocence.
All I asked was to make it right.
Restore my honor on my own merit. 

The Universe didn't let her escort me to my Judgement.
On condition that my Dead follow me until my task was finished. 
They would bear witness to my mission.
They would decide when I was done.

So I did.  And they are gone. 

I am alone.  My task is complete.
I am alive.  I don't know what that means.

Magnitude

Dear Taim,

Every day I imagine what adventures you're going on and what ones we will have in the future. I miss you and your mother every day.  I sit here and wonder, "how can I make it all worth it?"

Working my way from under your mother's magical webs upon my heart and mind has been one of the most difficult things that I've had to do.  I'm unsure of how much of what she did was deliberate manipulations or subconscious programming running it's full course, what I am sure of is that it was meant to break me.  I don't believe in coincidences.  Nothing just happens.  Everything has a cause and everything has an effect.

If I were to break out a life's lesson that I've learned from all of this is that the only thing that you have to be sure of is yourself.  Able to stand and face whatever comes your way.  Able to understand and adapt to change.  And able to see that most people are not sure of themselves so they present something that makes it seem like they do.  But they don't and the best they can do is pretend.

But that is also okay, because like Kurt Vonnegut said, "We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful what we pretend to be."  Growing up I pretended I was a noble knight in King Arthur's Court, one of Robin Hood's Merry Men, teaming up with super heroes to take on villains, rescuing princesses from castles, and traveling across the galaxy fighting to balance the Force.  I wanted to be strong enough to face every evil and monster that would appear in my path.

That's how I have faced all my problems in the past.  Imitation of the ideals that I read and saw and wanted to be present in my life.  It is what the greatest artists do, it was what the Grand Masters taught.  It's how animals learn their survival skills, and how children pick up traits and behaviors from their surroundings.  Here is the coolest part of the whole ordeal:  For us, human beings, it's a deliberate choice on what we learn and how we behave.  We have the opportunity to break above the lower instincts through conscious will alone.

That also means that love and fear are choices.  Without us consciously being merciful, forgiving, and honorable they would not exist.  There is not a single molecule of love, true love, in the universe.  We create it.  The inevitability of time and death drives us forward, always forward.  But do we take each step purposefully?  Do we tell ourselves how we will be? When we find out that we have locked ourselves away, what experiences are we denying ourselves, what would the cycle of the seasons have brought us had we stepped forth openly and in full confidence in who we pretend to be?

We might be only meat popsicles living a finite existence, there might not be anything after this experience.  Whatever energy we are is released back into the ether, only to be recycled into something else.  Who knows?  Who really cares?  Are we really going to waste this limited life over petty grievances?

That's why when I think of your mother and you I am filled with understanding and love.  It's because it's a choice that I make.  All those years of wanting an opportunity to prove to myself that I am true to that which drives my heart, all it took was you and her.  To find the reason to survive.

And survive I will.

Hopefully I'll see you soon.  I want to be a good father to you and regardless of how your mother behaves, I'll still be a good man towards her. That's all I've wanted to be, and the funny thing about life is that until it is tested, it is all just pretend.

Practice being who you want to be, so that when the test comes, you're prepared. In the end, that's all that matters.

Love,

Dad

Philosopher's Stone

I gather all the memories
And see them in my mind
And from the recesses of my heart
All the emotions I can find

I play the lust, the pain, the rage
The release of my heart
From it's fear laden cage
And I place it upon the fire

To purify the soul
To be reborn anew
Into the copper bowl
The Alchemy must stew

Into the concoction I place in double
All my toil and all my trouble
And into that black mess must go
All the love that I could ever know

As that potion turns to ash
Through the white the embers glow
I reach back in the distant past
For the seeds that I must sow

I cultivated naught but dust and stone
In the garden of my soul
For to myself alone
Must I die

When she came, she gave me shade
I hesitated to sate my thirst
From her waters, drink she bade
My wounded soul she had nursed

The poison that was in my blood
Mixed with Love in a torrent flood
I held the Alchemy within
Mixing the yang with the yin

In that garden an oasis formed
And life came to my dessicated bones
The breath of life filled my lungs
I rang with pain and pleasure in my moans

In the midst of my troubled woes
I panicked and I fought
Fear rang in cavernous echoes
And rage boiled within

All of this my mind's eye did see
Into the copper bowl it went
In the mixture I grasped the key
The universe had sent

Ashes to ashes, the fire burnt
The water mixed with fierce current
The air boiled within the hearth
Seeped within the blackened earth

I gathered what was left of me
Threw it in the cauldron
Surrounded it within the void
And broke the world's illusion

The mixture brewed
The elixir bubbled
The transformation had renewed
The garden for the seeds

In the observers seat I sat
Devoid of all desire
No longer did I have to combat
Death's final funeral pyre

From this process I was reborn
No longer was I forlorn
The brightness of the Phoenix shone
For I had created the Philosophers Stone

Remembrance

I remember staring at
Your outline in the Dark
Memorizing your shape,
The way the Light would spark
To dance across your body's silhouette
And how my heart would quake.
When you asked me "why" I stared at thee
No answer I could make.
My emptiness was consuming me
You were the anchor of my mind
I imprinted all your highs and lows
That in your shadow I could find.
The mountains of your breast
The valley between your thighs.
How your back would crest like water
In pleasure we would share our cries.
I remember grasping your curling black mane,
You wrapping your arms around me.
In the balance of Light and Dark,
With you I could simply be.
I remember everything that you have ever done,
But this I remember most:
The way I loved you with all my heart
And how you gave life to a ghost.

INTERLUDE: Alchemy Part II (FINAL)

I have come
to drag you out of yourself,
and take you in my heart.
I have come
to bring out the beauty
you never knew you had
and lift you like a prayer
to the sky.

-Rumi

***

Normally these things I write happen instantaneously, as if they're being pulled out of me by some greater force.  With this one, my heart told me to wait. I had to delve deeply and listen, and search for the signs the Universe had to show me for the direction I needed to go.

I am a man who would have said that I had lost my faith.  In people, places, gods, and things. I had pursued my dream to the very edge of madness.  When my Dark Lady beckoned me, my Malice of Wonderland, I gave in and lost whatever illusion of control I had imagined.  Then I lost my hope, my godspark, my will to live.  The Demiurge had cast it's trap.  My soul had died, but my heart was still beating.

Since the end of February, I've questioned my entire existence. Never have I really done that before.  I had always known why I existed, whether that was through God's creation or to seek reparations for the dead.  That much had been clear, and will be expanded upon in the next series named PANTHEON, but will only be mentioned here.  I had given everything to Melissa.  Dredged up every grain of myself, held on because of her and my son, and in the end... it seems like it has been worth nothing.  And I had to question:  What does that say of me?

I have reached out to find answers only to be spurred with scorn and hate from her friends and family.  I know I've done nothing to deserve that treatment.  The Norwegian Government has refused to cooperate with me, even to the extent of violating international law and their own civil penal code.  I've contacted Lawyers and schools, the US Embassy in Norway... and nothing.  It's like the Universe has spurred my existence and everything that I had done means nothing.  I was simply used and discarded. Again.

What does that say to me?

I've had very few "Spiritual" experiences outside of the Shamanic realms.  Those I had attributed to the imagination, my interpretation of the outer realms with an inner experience.  Completely valid and real, sometimes more real than this world, but ultimately I had been unable to integrate it to pursue a balanced life.  I had won my war, fought every battle and had overcome, but had been unable to live at peace with myself.  And now I have to fight a war that I never wanted.  One against the very person with whom I love the most.  My Twin Soul.  And all I have is myself, and nothing more.  No money, no support.  Just me.  I have to hope that is enough.

It's driven the knife that rests within my heart to my very core.  It's bled me dry leaving a husk of grief and sorrow.  I had gained my soul back through my deeds, felt the weight of the mountain of duty fall from my shoulders, freed my heart, truly freed it, after over a decade of hiding it away.  In my most vulnerable, the knife flashed out of the darkness, for the final killing blow.

I had lain on the floor of my mother's apartment for months, ready for my final breath.  It never came.  Every day, I'd pull my husk out and greet the day with my dog.  I'd practice my yoga and Tai Chi. The prison of my flesh keeping my spirit bound and the universe ignored my cries for freedom.

And in my loneliest of lonely's, Kali Ma came to me.  The multi-armed goddess of Creation and Destruction stood over my body, with lust and destructive joy, naked and glorious, a mirrored reflection of the Lover I had left in Norway.  Her divine blade came down upon my neck, and whatever was in me holding on, died.  I fell from my head and into my heart for the first time.  It was there, in the desolate wasteland of my own heart that I had found the treasure I had been searching for, that no intellectual thought could produce.  I sat as an observer in my own mind as my intuition tore away at the reality that I had created.  I had found my Philosopher's Stone. It wasn't in the mind or body, or even the soul.  It was the core of my heart, covered in the grime and dust of negativity, compressed and pressured over the years.  The true and hidden driving force behind my every thought and action.  Refined through Alchemy, the desperate and needed process for spiritual growth, I held in my hands the seed that would transmute the grief and sorrow, pain and rage, in the the purest substance in the Universe.  Unconditional Love.

I said to myself, "what does this mean for me?"

***

The process of inner growth and change isn't a straight line. Like any true creation, it takes many prototypes to get a working design, and like any great scientific discovery it usually happens on accident.  And in my case desperation.

When I've searched for answers all I have done is fill my head with knowledge but my application process had been struggling, frustrating, filled with failure after failure. When I would feel like I had gained a measure of control of my life, my feet would be swept out from under me.  I eventually gave in to what is known in the Psychological field as "learned helplessness". And in the recent months since my finding of my Philosopher's Stone and my experience with Kali Ma, I've learned quite a bit about my PTSD and how to utilize what I have to combat it.

I've been in a VA inpatient program for almost seven weeks.  I've been building a framework for myself to hold together and not collapse when I have to weather more storms of depression that are invoked by my trauma.  For many years I had been studying and giving myself the tools confront my shadow and pain, but have had very little success in structural stability.  It was like I had thought that simply having the tools would give me the skills needed, and I had continued to build my house upon the sand so that when the storms did come, it collapsed. And collapsed. Over and over again.  Until finally my tools had been worn out, bandits had lain in wait for me, and I could do nothing to reassure the ones that I love that everything would be alright.

Now I have education in the skills that I needed to utilize the tools that I already have.  Not only that, I have new and innovative tools to use that I had never realized before.  I also have my Philosopher's Stone to add to my forge.  Where before I would have added my grief and sorrow to the weapon I had created of myself, the one that Shattered into a thousand thousand pieces unsure if I would ever be able to put it back together again the night that I had attempted suicide and then struck my Lady Love in self defense, I now can change the makeup of that weapon utilizing Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing something with gold.

I no longer have to look at my brokenness with shame and disgust, but with pride of the history that I have overcome.  My past and scars are my Legacy.  My blade can finally rest, only to be picked up when needed. I am the Master of my Fate, the Captain of my Soul.  And I will pick the battles that I want to fight.

My heart is whole and pure once again.  And that was the awakening of my solar light.

INTERLUDE: Alchemy Part I

"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." – Carl Jung. 

I'm not a Jungian, but I highly admire Carl Jung's branch of psychology which delves into the the spiritual symbolism of the mind.  I'd highly recommend any of his works, as well as others like James Hillman's The Soul's Code, but the process of individuation and dream interpretation is found in Psychology and Alchemy. A process that I have been going through for many years, but only recently discovered for myself, needing to delve into with both feet while on my Path.

Though my own process doesn't use very many of the technical terms, I'm still learning, I can easily recognize that the Path that I walk is the one that every man needs to in order to transform in to his true self, or die in waste. In here I have learned how vastly important the stories we tell ourselves are.  That we recognize our Imagination as the true driving force of our Will.  That as we search for the Higher Truths, they become more and more recognizable through our imagination, not because we are able to make things up, but because it allows us to recognize the truth in all things. To be able to speak with the very heart of the universe. Every word written becomes Holy, and every piece of knowledge becomes Divine.  That is because everything drives us to become more awake or delve deeper into sleep.  The process of Awakening is painful but enlightening, using that pain to give us greater understanding of love.  Where the process of Sleeping is comforting and sheltering, causing us to react to those things that disturb our sleep with fear.

In the Alchemical tradition, there are four stages to becoming your True Self.  Nigredo, Albedo, Citrinitas, and Rubedo.  They are the Dark Night of the Soul which is the putrefaction and death of the soul. The Purification of the Soul, the washing away of impurities. The Coagulation of the Soul , or the dawning of the solar light. Then finally The Completion of the Great Work also known as the Magnum Opus.

My formative years, until I joined the military, I lived a different life than most of the world.  I was protected from the greater chaos but given mostly free reign to explore my surroundings.  I had no father or any strong male figure to mentor me through life.  I had my Great-Grandfather, he was my wise old sage full of great wisdom and displaying great love, but I was left alone to figure out the rest.  My environment allowed me to do that in safety.  Though my religion put the chains of sin around my ankles, it did prevent me from making most of the mistakes that young men do make early on, and though the mistakes I made when I was "free" of those chains were of greater consequence, I had been stable enough to figure my own way through them and learn the lessons that I needed to.

When I joined the military I began my Nigredo and it lasted for over a decade. My interactions with my peers and others mixed within me the darkest parts that humanity had to offer.  Murder, rage, deceit, apathy, conformity, and many more.  These ate away at the child that I had been, like an acid dissolving the my innocence and calcifying my entire being.  Whatever core that was inside me fought, endured, and survived, finally breaking at the hammer of my physical trauma when I had thought that I had escaped that final death of my soul.  But that breaking didn't destroy me, it only shattered me into a thousand thousand pieces.

My process of Albedo, purification, came at the insistence of my own Will and the guidance of the Universe.  Of that I have no doubt.  The dead that had appeared to me in my dreams protected me and gave me their strength, because only I could honor them in the proper manner.  They formed the framework for my shattered soul as I worked on it like a puzzle whose shape changes with need of where the pieces are to be placed.  The attacks against me were the forge and supplied the fire within to bind myself back together.  And so a weapon had been forged, shaped by my Will like a master smith lost in a trance.  The edges cut, sharp and deep, nothing could stand against it, but I had, at times, misused the weapon that I had become and blunted and dirtied it against the dull stupidity of the enemy.  So I would have to go back to the forge to repair and clean.  And I learned, that the sword of my spirit not only cut my enemies, but also cut myself.  I sheered away that which I found of myself I no longer needed or benefited me. I added them to the forge but the weapon was still incomplete.

When I had met my Shaman Teacher for the first time, he connected me to my ancestors.  I stood in front of the Great Assembly of Men in judgement.  I watched as my life played out in my minds eye, and felt them watching my every reaction.  They had already seen me for what I was.  They were watching me for who I would become.  They showed me not only my own traumas, but those that I had caused others.  Then they gave me Names.  I was the Red Handed.  The Obsidian Heart.  The Grim Dreamer.  In these I felt the weight of consequence.  Marks upon me that would forever identify my deeds.  I accepted them as one would accept a sentence of doom.

Then I felt my Great-Grandfather's presence.  There were no words, more vibrations and feelings.  he conveyed to me this, "You judge yourself harsher than anyone of us could ever judge you.  Forgive yourself. Remember that you are loved."  And in my sorrow mixed tremendous pride.  My repentance wasn't for them to give me, it was for myself to realize.  They found me worthy of the weapon I was forging.  The names that I had been given were added to the forge and placed into the weapon, their purpose unknown to me at the time.

The first time I had stepped fully into battle after that experience was my BBC Hardtalk interview. After that I confronted the Montana Court System with the false animal abuse charges, stepped into the Bundestag, traveled over Norway to speak, spoke at the Nobel Peace Center, did a TEDx Talk, premiered the DRONE film in Time's Square.  For six months I was a whirling dervish, untouchable, filled with joy and reckless abandon. Death was at my door and I was rushing gleefully into her arms.

The secret wish of my heart wasn't to die but to find a reason not to.  I had accepted the inevitable, the people in positions surrounding the drone world have fragile egos and the narcissistic tendency to eliminate anyone who is a threat to their power, and there is no greater threat than Truth.

The Universe is the Great Chemist of the Soul, and she knew the secret wish of my heart.  That's why I had to meet Melissa three times before I understood the language the universe was speaking at me. Maktub.

In the process of chemistry, to purify a substance any number of techniques can be used.  I had reached the point in my own Albedo process where I had let go of the past and future on my own.  I was living in the moment.  I might not have "loved myself" but I was satisfied with my life had it ended then.  Death is simply a step in the cycle anyways.

When her Love was added to me, I felt ready to burst with radiant light!  The last of the impurities, the sorrow, the grief, the disappointments were rising to the surface. Some nights I would shake almost like I was having a seizure, and my mind was bursting with what the ancients would call "Shamanic ecstasy."  But Melissa was scared because she had no idea what was happening, and she attributed it to psychosis.  Her fear latched on to me through the opening of love and I closed it away.  Immediately I started getting physically sick again.  I really had no idea what was going on other than I was experiencing an extreme release of emotional energy.

And when I had finally thought I was free, a few individuals decided to stalk me, threaten me, and slander me where they could.  That fear latched on as well and drove me down into another Dark Night of the Soul.  The only thing that got me through that was my Love for her.

I can't really say what went on in her mind, she never really was that communicative with me.  Her harsh words drove me more and more into myself.  When I brought her to Germany, my final speaking engagement there, she had told me that she had thought about cheating on me and the first night she was there I had a horrid nightmare that I had been abducted by aliens and experimented on.  I did everything that I could to show her that I was dedicated to her, through all the pain and misery that I was dealing with.  The German politicians that I was dealing with wanted to suck the life out of me for next to nothing, and because of her advice I decided to take care of myself.  I was done anyways.  I didn't need to participate in that drama any more if I wasn't going to get the support I needed.  My son was conceived in Germany, the only thing good about that whole trip.

A month later I went back to the states to get my dog, check up and deal with the VA, get a handle on those jerkwads who were stalking me from a ground perspective, and then boogie back to Norway.  That's when I found out that Melissa was pregnant and any reckless behavior that I had thought about pursuing vanished from my mind.  And the process returned to the purification.

That summer was an interesting one to say the least.  I had let a veteran buddy borrow my car and he had sold it for heroin money.  I ended up reporting it to the police, and in the meantime I purchased a 10 year old ford van so that we could travel around the USA in a road trip.  Even when things went wrong (our van was towed in New Orleans and it cut into my budget by $300), I like journeys that test me so that I can see where I need to improve.  We had some great adventures.

I sent Melissa back home, and that was tough because I really did rely on her support and I didn't want to leave her alone and pregnant. I just hoped that everything would work out okay..  I was trying to deal with the VA and that was like pulling teeth.  There is no adequate healthcare in Norway for somebody like me, and I didn't want them to think that I was using their system to get it.  That took almost two months.  During that time I fell into another depression.  Fear and Love warring inside of me like two primordial Titans vying for dominance.

When I got back, it was with my dog, my partner, and my soon to be born son. Everything that I had ever wanted and needed. But it was like something was draining my life from me.  Sucking my very soul.  The blackness threatened to suffocate my light and my love.  Melissa must have felt it too.  Her attacks became more and more harsh, and I withdrew into myself more and more.  I felt like a zombie, and I couldn't figure out why.

That's where this story begins.  So I don't need to retell it.  The circle has been completed.  The purification process finalized.  And so begins the next step.  The Awakening of the Solar Light.

DEVOTION

Dark Lady guide me
Through the Night of the Soul
And if my feet should falter
Encourage me to see

Dark Lady teach me
How to die to my self
And if my ego clings in desperation
Give me patience to be

Dark Lady protect me
From my own recklessness
And if my heart is wounded
Help me pick up my debris

Let my Light thrive in your Darkness
And discover who you are
You are the reason for my Creation
For you, I have journeyed far

Shelter me in your mercy
Forgive me for my faults
Build with me a sanctuary
My heart a treasure for your vaults

Place your wisdom upon my soul
To guide me into old age
Humble me with your passionate love
Let me write my devotions upon the page

I give my life only to serve your Grace,
This life I live is mine to give,
And it is wholly, and completely
Yours.

Chasing Love and Revelation: A Reflection AFTERWORD

INVICTUS
by William Ernest Henley

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be,
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance,
My head is bloody but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.

***

I started writing this piece as a memento to the woman who takes her place as my Dark Lady in my pantheon because the funny thing is, in the book mentioned in the opening to this reflection, the main character sees the Virgin Mary as a Dark Lady. When I first met Melissa, I couldn't think of her as anything else. I see her now as Kali Ma, the Vedic goddess of destruction, time, power, and creation. When I read Chasing Love and Revelations: A Fable About Finding the Heart's True Desire, I was actually shocked at how much it rang true, but I think that is also a point of fables.

For as long as I can remember I've had some reoccurring dreams that play out in front of my awareness while I'm fully conscious of it.  Growing up in the Christian religion, I knew the importance of dreams, but when I had talked with an older gentleman about them when I was around the age of 15 he tried to convince me that, and I'll quote, "Since Christ is coming back there is no more need for dreams and prophecy because there is nothing new to tell.  Your dreams sound evil and are trying to tempt you to sin."

You can imagine how much that can fuck with a young believer's mind.  After that I fought against my dreams, though they never stopped coming.  So I stopped sleeping.  A few of my former friends could tell you how hard I pushed my non-sleeping agenda upon myself.  To the point where I was sleeping 20 minutes every four hours, and I did that for 4 years. I sustained myself on mediation and mental focus. Until February 2010 when I had pushed my body so hard that I had to go to the emergency room because I had shit and puked blood while working in the 3rd SOS. Then my dreams had to find their way back to me.

By the time that I had left the US Military I had given up all pretense of religious faith.  It was vapid and empty, much like the spiritual reflection of our physical society today.  I wasn't necessarily Atheist, or Agnostic, I simply didn't care one way or the other.  That left the dreams that had come lose their significance for me and when they came back they were terrifying and confusing.

My dreams can feel more real than the waking world at times.  And in most of my dreams there has always been a Dark Lady, somebody that I had felt was waiting for me.  That I had to find.  Where I had once dismissed them as idle and unrequited longings that I could never fulfill, the pain of separation keeping me seeking and seeking until I could seek no more,  the moment I saw Melissa I knew. But I didn't know what I knew.  The dreams that I had turned away from, the Goddess of my Nightmares had been made flesh, and the possibilities opened up to the Endless expanses of reality.  

I had spent so much time seeking that I never took the time to figure out what I would do if I ever found.  I had spent so much time believing that I would never be complete so I let the world tear what I had of me apart.  So when I had finally found her, I held on to myself, what was left of myself, as hard as I can.  In order to fight through the dullness of my mind that had been given to me through pain, I grasped my anger in both hands and held it's heat as close to the dying embers of my heart as I could.  When THEY attacked me out of their cowardice, it ignited the flame from a candle to an inferno.  

Being with me that year must have been difficult.  It certainly was difficult to be with myself.  If nothing else it certainly was confusing for me.  I had only trusted that she would be strong enough to endure it while I figured out what to do.  I don't think anyone is that strong, anymore, and her realizing that she wasn't enough hurt her pride and self image.  Enough for her to make some very poor decisions that have hurt both of us.  I'm not exactly sure what went on in her mind, but it was nowhere near the fantasy of enduring for love that I had in mine. 

So this was my farewell, if not to her then it was to the heart that had endured for her.  It was a reminder of what I had gone through in my search for the possibility of her existence, and a sharp reminder of my wounds which drove her away.  Love like this exists, somewhere in the universe, and you can see the lengths that somebody would go, that I have gone, for it. 

I have made many mistakes in my life, and none so regretful as the ones I made with her. Whether that was with giving myself to her or not running away, only the Fates can know. I will, however, not let that stop me from living my life.  And in essence, these writings that I have posted have been used to transmute my grief into the love that I had so much trouble expressing while I had dealt with my own pain.  Now that it has mostly been expressed here, I can put my heart on the alter of Love and sacrifice it completely.  

 To Kali Ma, the Life-Giver, the Preserver and Destroyer. you are the fount of my Love and the tearer of my soul.  In you, my ego has been slain, my consciousness released from my head and into my heart.  In this heart, I give back to you, a sacrifice.  Take it. Destroy it. Scatter it to the four winds so that it's essence my join the world, and maybe find it's way back to me again.  Thank you for the pain, for I would not have realized joy.  Thank you for the grief for I would never have realized the depth of my love.  And thank you for my anger so I could empower my will to hold on when I had felt that I had nothing left.

With the Death of my Heart, we go and visit the gods of my pantheon.

Chasing Love and Revelations: A Reflection Part VII (FINAL)

Sweet is true love though given in vain, in vain;
And sweet is death who puts an end to pain:
I know not which is sweeter, no, not I.

Love, art thou sweet? then bitter death must be:
Love, thou art bitter; sweet is death to me.
O Love, if death be sweeter, let me die.

I fain would follow love, if that could be;
I needs must follow death, who calls for me;
Call and I follow, I follow! let me die.

Idylls of the King 

Line 1000

By Alfred, Lord Tennyson

***

The two months follow my excursion into the belly of the Beast was one of celebrated triumph.  Everywhere I went I was alive.  I had redeemed my own soul and the shackles of fear that plagued my mind were gone, the key was in simply trusting myself.  I was free, but my heart was still caged. The heart of the boy that had been wounded had never healed, and I had doubted that I could find one that could heal it.

Everywhere that I had went, people asked if I was single, giving me this advice and that.  I traveled around Norway and had given the best lectures that I had ever given, a testimony to finding the Greater Love within.  But no matter who crossed my path, I couldn't give the tender love of my wounded heart.

In the process of my travels the boots that I had kept for the five years since I had been issued them finally fell apart.  In a self made ceremony, on the shores of the fjord, with a man who was of the land itself and the director of the film Drone, calling upon the blessing of the gods and elements, nature and the setting sun, we purified them in fire and scattered the ashes into the wind.  My feet were free to walk any path now.  I was free and I had no idea what to do with myself.

See, I hate drones.  When I left the program I had wanted nothing to do with them ever again.  When I had gotten injured and faced the consequences of that death, I knew I had to face what I had ran away from.  I knew I had to give voice to the truth that was hidden in the lies of my country's leadership.  I had given myself fully to that, sacrificing dreams and hopes and wants and desires.  I had turned away from women who had claimed to love me and then betray my trust.  Whenever I had seen the seed of fear planted in their bosom I would leave before it could take root and sprout.

I couldn't give up my search for she who could heal my heart, no matter what protests I said aloud.  I knew she didn't exist, but I had to search anyways, otherwise I had nothing that I wanted to live for.  I had overcome all things.  My broken self had been put back together.  My confidence shone like a beacon in the darkness.  

Early November 2015, I had given a talk with members of the Red Cross in Oslo, Norway after a screening of Drone. The young woman who had hosted the event was a lawyer and had done some research into drones. Not only that, but she has the look that can turn a man's head backwards if he isn't careful.  Since I had nowhere to stay while I was there, she and her boyfriend invited me to sleep in their extra bedroom.  In my loneliest of lonelies, I had let the fantasy play out of me stealing her away from her man.  A foolish thought that I had laughed away because it was against my personality and I had come to respect both of them as intellectuals and people. And Aristotle does say, it is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

A few nights later I had a public "debate" at the Nobel Peace center with a Norwegian Air Force Officer and a Norwegian Politician, I had decided to finalize a plan that I had in the works from the beginning.  I had decided that I would kill myself.  I couldn't see a future in what I was doing and living without love, well, that wasn't something that I wanted to entertain.  While I had been free of my duty, I was far from healthy.  Like a tortured prisoner that had been found innocent and released, I would carry the scars and wounds with me for the rest of my life. 

When I had returned to the apartment the couple that I was staying had been entertaining a few people, and only another couple remained.  When I was introduced to both of them, the woman in a black dress with spiderweb stockings, lipstick the color of blood and eyes the color earthy moss, caused my heart to leap into my throat.  It was like a bell had been rung in my mind, but I quickly put that out of my thoughts.  She was with the other man who was there, and way above my class anyways.  When she had said that she had just gotten out of a Tango class, I did a little jig to try and make her laugh and she looked at me like I was mad.

She left shortly afterwards by herself, and I inquired to the gentleman that stayed behind why he didn't go with her and he dismissed even the possibility.  They were not together and he wasn't interested in her.  After everyone went to bed and I updated my suicide letter, She was the last thing I thought of before I sank into oblivion.  The Dark Lady of my dreams finally had a face and figure.

The next evening I went out with the husband of the director of Drone and his best friend.  The ENTIRE evening they grilled me on finding a woman.  And the entire evening I fought against it.  I could have my fantasies, but never my realities.  Even the best friend's girlfriend started giving me a difficult time about it.  They were relentless.  I was pretty heavily drunk late into the evening, having tried to start conversations with random individuals and being brushed off by a few Norwegian women.  I never told them who I was or what I had done.  I wonder if idle conversation simply isn't my strongest point, or maybe my frustration was leaking through my barriers.  We're sitting outside of the Kulturhusset when Lowan tells me to go inside and just talk to somebody.  Find someone for the evening and get that frustration out of my system.  I needed to use the restroom anyways, so I head inside with a defeated grumble.  They just couldn't understand.  It's not simply an evening of lust that I wanted. I could get that anywhere.  I had a few women back home who were waiting to jump my bones, even my exes were nagging on me.  But that wasn't what I sought.

I head into the bathroom and I stood staring at myself in the mirror.  I tried to talk myself up, tried to give in.  But I couldn't do it.  And as I left I resolutely threw the key to my heart as far away from me in my mind as I could. As I'm heading towards the door, I pull my cap low over my eyes when somebody steps in front of me and stops.  I'm about to excuse myself when I look up into her smiling face. My heart beats against my ribcage, like a mad prisoner trying to break free.  Before I could say anything my voice catches in my throat.  She asks what I was doing and think I just shrugged my shoulders.  I felt frozen in place.  She then invites me to come sit with her and her Bosnian friends.  I looked towards the door and then back at her, and I gave into my heart's desire.  It was only for an evening after all.  And I could use a good conversation, I thought to myself.

And I did.  I forgot about all my problems, all my hopes, nothing really mattered but that moment with her.  We didn't talk politics or world issues, which had worn upon my soul.  We talked about comic books and video games, television shows and books, tattoos and psychology and spirituality, and the turnings of the universe.  My heart reached for her through the bars of it's cage.  It cried her name and worshiped her spirit.  She told me about her upbringing, the war and conflict, and her overcoming of those difficult obstacles at a young age.  We talked and talked.  She was not only a beautiful woman, but she had a beautiful soul and a sharp mind.  Everything that I could have ever wanted in a single package.  

But I knew that with all good things, they have to come to an end. And I would have rather kept that love alive in fantasy and died dreaming of what could be, than to bring her my wounds.  Because I know people, and I know women.  They might say that they want to fix a man, but they really don't.  They want a man who is fully realized and complete.  My healing process was far from complete, even if I had come into realization of myself.  So I thanked her for a lovely evening, and sorrowfully made my way back to Lowan's place, happy with a heavy heart.  And I dreamt of her again.

The next day I staggered back to the apartment room I was staying at.  I wrote down my dream in a poem that I had of the Dark Lady the night before.  We danced in my dreams, the dance of life and death.  I felt like I was flying with a lead weight.  The couple I was staying with were going to a party that evening and invited me along.  I politely declined, being tired and lost in my dreams.  I did mention that I had ran into Melissa the night before, and since I didn't have a phone number to let her know that was the most enjoyable evening I could ever have had and to thank her for it.  The male looked at me and told me she would be at the party.  The woman immediately jumped on that and told me to tell her myself.  I'm pretty sure there was no hesitation as I jumped into the shower and got ready.  

It was late before she got there.  The gentleman from the first evening that I met my Dark Lady talked my ear off about politics.  If there is anything that can tire me out more, it's news and politics.  When she arrived, I forgot about my tiredness.  She was lovely in her black security tee shirt and pants. We talked about music and took over DJing.  I didn't care if that was the music that the rest of the company didn't want to listen to.  I just wanted to see her and please her.

When we left, I was prepared to say goodbye, maybe for the last time.  I was headed out to do a TEDx Talk in Trondheim, where she is from, and then head back to the United States for the world Premiere of Drone. When we got to the bus stop she asked if I would like to come over to smoke a joint and see her comic book collection.  I looked at her, and saw her fully.  She had picked up the key that I had thrown so far away and handed back to me.  She didn't force it.  When she held out her hand to me, I took it in full awareness.  I didn't fall in love with her, I never wanted to fall again.  I walked into it with her. I let my heart out of it's cage.  I let myself be vulnerable with her. I didn't need her, I wanted her.  And I thought maybe, just maybe, I could heal in her embrace.

A few weeks later, after I had successfully returned from my excursion in the US into her arms, and I had thought myself out of harms way... THEY attacked. 

Chasing Love and Revelations: A Reflection VI.2

This is my Award Speech.  I forgot somebody transcribed it and had sent it to me.

***

Thank you very much.

I am a bit overwhelmed by the acceptance and gratitude that I have been shown, so let me just show a little bit of mine.

I would like to thank the people who have supported me through these really difficult times. I would like to thank my mother first, because she raised me to be the men I am today. And I would like to thank my dog, whose name is Bayern. He has been my companion for the last 5 years and without him I would not have had the will to keep going, to even just take care of myself because things have gotten so bad.

And I would like to thank my grandfather, who is the biggest male influence I ever had in my life and who kind of started this whole thing. When I was younger, he told me the only thing that a man has of any worth in this world is his word and if you cannot fulfill your word, then you have no worth. And he always talked about love and kindness and gentleness and peace and joy. And he said that these are the things that make up what a man can truly be. And I believed it.

In 2009 he passed away and the last thing I ever told him was that he was my hero and he told me that I was his. But I had not told him what I have done in the military and it broke my heart.

So, this is mainly for those 3 people that have been such a significant part of my life.

I would also like to thank the previous whistleblowers who have risked their lives and set the example for all of us to follow. If it was not for them we would not have an example to follow. We should also be reminded that there are people who are in exile or imprisoned like Manning, Snowden, Annsange and these people should be given just as much care and attention as me, even though they are away, they still need our support and our help.

I would also like to say that to anyone else out there who is thinking about whether or not they should talk about what is going on or things they have seen – just follow your conscience. It is never too late. Look at me! I thought that I was damned in the very literal sense and I have had validation, I have come to peace with myself. This is something I never thought that I will find.

It is a bit unreal, actually. There are a lot of things I could say. Before I came here my little brother told me that I was an inspiration to him. And I really thought about what that meant. I wanted to be an inspiration to him by being a good military member and I wanted to show him what a good man really is, to be a good older brother, because I just met him. He is 17 years old and I just met him. I was thinking about this the other day and came to the conclusion that I am exactly the man that I wished that I wanted to be. The military has forged me into this man that I am today, for the upbringing of my family. They taught me integrity first, service before self and excellence in all we do, and these are exactly the things I stand for and they have not stood for. They taught me that. I am a product of their training. I do not think they realize that. I think that it goes over their head a little bit, because everything I have done and said has been because they trained me to do it. And they trained me to be a man of integrity. But the power that they have given me, the power that we wield, is very destructive and I do not want my little brother to ever go through the things that I went through – to be where I am today. I do not want another child to have to decide whether or not going to war, to defend your country, because they do not know. When I joined my military I was a child. I was a child for years because I had no idea what is going on, I did not understand. I was told to shut up and color, do not question, do your job. I went against my conscience. I went against my upbringing, for something that I believed in. And I do not want anyone else to ever have to go through that to have to question themselves, to have to tear themselves apart, because they think that they are doing the right thing when they know that they are not. And I hope, I hope, that as we move forward to the future that we can stop this madness that is going on.



Thank you!

Chasing Love and Revelation: A Reflection Part VI

“But I don’t want to go among mad people," Alice remarked.
"Oh, you can’t help that," said the Cat: "we’re all mad here. I’m mad. You’re mad."
"How do you know I’m mad?" said Alice.
"You must be," said the Cat, "or you wouldn’t have come here.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland


This trip to Germany was my most interesting and chaotic yet. Since this is about the search for Love, most of the details will be saved for a larger piece I'm writing. On one of my short flights, I sat next to a very pretty woman from the American South. First time that I didn't sit next to somebody with whom I wish could be somebody else. I have never really been able to flirt or have a simple casual conversation with anyone before. My intimacy trauma simply held me back. Since I didn't believe I would ever see her again, I decided to go for it.

It's amazing what you can do when you believe in the finality of your Fate. I pulled out my kindle, she pulled out her book. I asked her what she was reading about and for the next few hours all we did was talk. It was good. I felt comfortable and so did she. I'm pretty sure that if she had told me to run away with her at that moment, I would have. I wasn't sure if I could face my duty. I was terrified. So when we said goodbye, I left with her my hopes for the future, praying that she is blessed with the fulfillment that I sought. What I took from her is that she is the people that I fight for. She had no idea who I was, but we were both enriched from our meeting. I let my hope for finding love go into the wind. This life was meant for something else.

In Germany, starting 7 October, 2015, I was chaos incarnate. I was focused on the duty that I had to perform and by the time we were done, I was awarded with a standing ovation by the entire assembly. When I had arrived at the Bundestag, I was delayed for a few hours. Since the Germans are notoriously precise on everything, I knew something was up. I had prepared for the eventuality of death, nothing else could phase me. However, it wasn't anything so dire as that. Jeremy Scahill of the Intercept had released the Drone Papers: The single most comprehensive release on all things Drone. All without my knowledge, he released them as soon as I stepped foot inside the political establishment. If I had been used for anything in my life, I'm pretty proud of that one. And whomever the leaker was, you probably saved my life.

The investigation committee asked me so many really good questions that I imagined that they had more knowledge of the system than I did. Until they showed it to me. It was incredible. It lifted my spirits. And I felt that I had won.

When I got out and had access to my phone, my mother had messaged me telling me that the US Air Force OSI had approached her and threatened her. For the second time I had placed my mother in danger, and while I was not afraid of losing my own life, I was terrified of hurting her. She had spent the last 3 years taking care of me when the government tossed me into the trash after my accident. I had stupidly placed her in harms way, not from any unforeseen enemy, but my own government.

When I cried to her, she told me to be strong and that she was proud of me that I was doing the right thing. For all the strength that I had, she has more. I was completely blessed to have been raised by such a woman. Otherwise, I wouldn't be the man I am today.

Again, I let it all go. I was free, and vindicated. After that release of emotion I felt brutally alive. My senses went into hyper mode. I celebrated. Mostly by finding the best Kebabs in Berlin, but then I had dinner with my Journalist friend, John K.

It was absolutely lovely. I was among friends and happy, really happy for the first time in what seems like forever. At the end of the night, there were three of us left talking. Two Johns and me. We proceeded to get good drunk on great wine and Estonian Pure Vodka. Both John's talked about their families, and love, and the richness that they felt. John K. told me that I would find a good woman someday, and I disagreed with him vehemently.

"It's not for me," I said. "Nonsense!" He'd reply, "You're a good man and you deserve a good woman. And your children will be good too!" I'm pretty sure we had that same conversation at least 10 times that evening. But I couldn't see it. I gave it up. I couldn't put somebody in danger. When I mentioned that he said she wouldn't care because she would love me. I told him love like that only exists in fairy tales. The other John, who is Irish in the purest sense, said that it didn't matter if I believed in fairies or not, that a good man with a good heart is always blessed by the Earth. Or some other poetic nonsense. I couldn't see that they were right.

I should have packed my things that night because I was supposed to ride a train down to the 2015 Whistleblower of the year award. I was passed out on my bed and had to be woken up violently, proceeded to vomit the contents of the previous evening into the sink and all over the bathroom floor, somehow missing myself, and stumbling to the taxi and train station with nary a second to spare.

Of course I slept the entire ride down to the award ceremony.

To be honest the whole thing is a blur. I met a young man who wrote a Rap song about me. Probably one of the coolest things anyone has ever done for me. It felt strange being given an award for blundering along in trying to find redemption for my soul. Almost like the Universe was telling me that I was on the right track. I even had this speech wrote out with robotic phrases and half-hearted appeals to everyone's greater consciousness.

I'm not sure how long I stared blankly at my notebook or the crowd full of expectant faces, but I caught the eye of John Goetz, the journalist who introduced me (in German), and a friend. I thought about the first time we met, in a bar, when he was just asking questions and I answered them without knowing the significance of what I was saying. Then I thought about my little brother, and my absent father, the struggles that I had and the lack of good respectable male role-models in our modern society. And I couldn't just walk away like it meant nothing. If nothing else, I've learned a lot, and as a learned person it is my duty to share it.

So I closed my notebook and I spoke directly from my heart. I poured my pain and my anger into my speech. I let them know that I would do my best to never let another young man have to walk the path that I did alone and afraid. Because I was no longer afraid. I don't remember the exact words or the rest of the ceremony but I ended up getting drinks with one of the committee members afterwards and some of the interns. Here is the email she sent me afterwards. I've been trying to think of more than a simple "thank you" response ever since.

***

Dear Brandon

Reiner kindly gave me your email. I hope you don't mind and I hope you remember (Angelika, a jury member - the one who went for a late night drink with you and our wonderful interns). I wanted to send you some personal words, in the aftermath of the whistleblower prize ceremony. I think this was a very moving event - at least to me it was - and you have convinced everybody that the award was given to the right person. Perhaps what I also mean is that you have convinced me that we gave the prize to the right person. For the sake of honesty, I confess that I had not agreed to award the prize to you and had abstained in the process of voting. I am new to the jury and was confronted with such a tricky decision for the first time in that capacity but the process requires a consensus decision by the jury. It could move forward because I did not oppose, only abstained. I could not bring myself to award this prize to somebody who has been involved in killing people and we had lengthy discussions about this within the jury. But having met you in person and having heard your story from yourself I grew convinced - to my relief - that my concerns were obsolete.

You are a very impressive, deep and strong person. While I do think everybody is responsible for his/her actions and I learned through meeting and talking with you that you undoubtedly have grown to understand that and are accepting that responsibility, you also were brought and lured into this situation by people and a system that is designed to prey on people's vulnerability, ignorance and immaturity. A cruel, dehumanizing system. You have miraculously grown to understand this while still being stuck in a very vulnerable, locked-in situation and without external influence (as I understood your story) - this is hugely impressive. And one can sense and only begin to imagine how much pain this has caused and has tortured your young soul. For that I am very sorry, no young person should have to go through such a torture but yet, here we are, currently flooded in Germany and Europe with so many, many of your soul mates, young women and men and children who went through even worse suffering, fleeing a nightmare war and total destruction induced - and here the circle closes - by actions of other tortured souls like you. So, while this is a maddening situation that can easily blow one's mind, you seem to grow with these challenges and mature with them. That is very inspiring and it is reassuring that there could have been nobody more worthy of receiving the prize and the recognition coming with it. I had not seen that when I had to make a decision whether you should receive the prize but I was mistaken. I am deeply impressed with the depth of your personality and intellectual capacity to understand and deal with this immensely complex situation. Perhaps you have only begun to discover and realize your capabilities - make good use of them, they are very precious. I wish you of course all the best for your life - live a good life, a meaningful life and do enjoy life!

And I meant what I said earlier to you. If the US gov decides (or other forces) to go after you, you have a large support group here who would do everything in their power to help you - make use of that when the time comes. And thank you for what you did for us as citizens of Germany - although I live in Switzerland, Germany is my country of birth and homeland - even though I think you had no clue of what politically relevant knowledge you held - that is a collateral benefit, if you wish. For Germany your revelations are critical, enabling us to hold our government accountable which in my view is the first line of duty of a citizen.

Have a good life and feel free to come back any time as a friend.

Yours sincerely, peace & love,
Angelika

Chasing Love and Revelation: A Reflection Part V

“...There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.” 
― Miyamoto Musashi, The Book of Five Rings


Once you delve into the dark places of the mind and soul the only way to see the truth is if you bring your own light.

When I left Missoula, MT, at the end of September 2015 to drive to Seattle so I could catch a plane to Germany for the Bundestag NSA Investigation, I had thought that would be the last time I would see the place of my birth.  I left in a flurry and in a fury, having been evicted from the relative safety of my mother's apartment because her neighbors had complained about my dog being too big.  A strange thing happened as I was leaving the neighborhood is that the power went out and the darkness chased me away.

I drove all through the night only stopping to get petrol and letting my dog get some exercise to answer natures call.  Both times we stopped he was scared back into the car by something hidden in the darkness.  I didn't question him and sped away to Seattle proper to a hiding place at a friend's house.  While I waited to drop off my beast at another friend's place three days later, she left me alone to go stay with her boyfriend.  I had a lot of thinking to do and no distractions.

Before heading out to Germany, I visited a shaman that had previously guided me in journeys in understanding and healing my spirit, but this time, he helped me prepare to die.  I had already dropped off my dog and dedicated three more days to meditation and journeying. I embraced the sorrow and fear that this would be my final act of defiance.  I prayed and asked my ancestors to let me speak the truth fully from my heart.  I thanked the dead that had followed me since my accident three years previous for letting me honor them and for giving me the strength to overcome what had seemed the impossible.  Finally, I sought harmony with Gaia and the universe for giving me the opportunity to change my Fate.

As I meditated I let go of my past mistakes, one by one.  I forgave those that hurt me, because I grew wiser and stronger from it, and I prayed that those that I had hurt would one day be able to see and forgive me. I thought about Project RED HAND, my failed brainchild to try and set up a foundation for those that seek to speak the truth and help the general populace understand the nature of what we, who have bloodied our hands, have done through our eyes and hearts.  It had helped me hold on to the idea that I could make a solid change in the world.  It gave me something to pour my heartache into and delve into the pain.  It was my mantra, my meditation, my life's blood.  And I let that go hoping that since the seeds didn't sprout for me, maybe they would sprout for somebody else.  Blood doesn't make a good fertilizer.

I dwelled on my dreams.  In my dream journeys I had met beings who claimed to be gods, demons, the Three Fates.  I had seen the creation of universes, the dying of stars.  I had traveled to the edge of the void and peered into the abyss and knew it looked back at me.  I had met Death herself,  she embraced me as a lover would and comforted my despair. With my Shaman I had stood in front of the entire Assembly of my Ancestors and relived my life, seen the pain that I had experienced and that I had given to others. I had felt their judgement, but never their scorn.  They loved me, reminded me of that, and told me that the only person that needed to forgive me was myself.  That I had judged myself harsher than anyone ever could, because I knew myself.  By the time those three days were over, I was ready.  I had sharpened my mind as a blade, with the knowledge that I had gathered. I was formidably armed, making my final stand.  I was ready.

Chasing Love and Revelation: A Reflection Part IV

"There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings."
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky

I recently came across the above quote while reading Viktor E. Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning.  At the VA Hospital where I am currently, the head of the psychology department gave me her copy and asked me to read it.  I got halfway through it before I gave it back to her and bought it on my kindle so I could keep the highlights for reference.

I'm amazed that this book hasn't come across my path before this.  It's once again, if I had read this a year ago, two years ago, I'm sure my current situation wouldn't be in as dire straits. It seems that the universe has this tendency to give me the test first and the lesson afterwards.  And maybe, just maybe, the experience is what makes the lessons stick.

Most of my adult life has either been ran by desperation, guilt, or shame.  Usually a mix of all three.  In the USAF, my heart had been subject to ridicule, my desperation to fit in led to my shame, and the guilt of what I had done pressed as a mountain of weight upon my soul.  However, through most of that I kept my faith in the Christian god and the silly mantra of "carrying my cross" got me through many things that would have otherwise been impossible.  I should have remembered that sometimes silly things are true.

In Frankl's book, he talks about his experiences as a prisoner who experienced life in the Nazi concentration camps as a psychologist.  He even mentions that many of the things he remembers is due to an strange clinical interest, and credits his survival not only to luck but his training as well.  I find that the soldier's life and a prisoner's life are strangely similar.  That if one truly gets down to it, both are trapped by ideology, have their humanity broken, and ultimately seek escape from reality in some form or another.  Though I know many atheists that come from the military or that have served, if they were to continue their own search for something greater than themselves, I'm sure they'd have a better understanding of the spiritual path than most. 

My escape from the drone program liberated me.  I was no longer subject to the whims of those that have been disconnected from their humanity.  Where those that sit behind the screen experience the life of war through a digital lens and forget the cost of living.  When I got into the Reserves, I told them that I would only participate if they got me into the SERE program.  I had met some of the Guardian Angel Weapon System's brood and I had felt that after my disappointment in the Drone program, I could rebuild my confidence in myself and my country by finally getting my hands dirty without having to place myself in a position to take another's life unless absolutely necessary.  

When I got injured shortly after I started the official indoctrination, the head of the program gave me the opportunity to come back after I had gotten better.  When I got back to my Reserves squadron, where I should have gotten medical help, they simply kicked me to the curb and told me to take care of myself, then placed me inactive instead of giving me my medical discharge.  Since then I've had to fight for my medical care.  And that has been humiliating in itself.

From the moment of my accident, time seemed to stop flowing normally.  After my dead appeared to me, I was trapped in a continuous loop of memory.  Whenever I'd closed my eyes everything would be in infrared and I could no longer tell you where I was.  I'd re-experience my events as if they were new, though I would know the outcome.  It was as if Nietzsche's Allegory of the Demon was a literal thing, though it wasn't a demon that held me prisoner of my thoughts, it was my trauma.  A more real demon in itself.

When I met Nicola Abe who wrote the Der Spiegel article concerning drones that appeared 14 December 2012, I was trapped in that loop and barely knew what I was truly experiencing.  I was in multiple places and times at once.  But when the article came out on the 17th in English, where I had envisioned that the American people would see and my compatriots would be heard, and we, as a people, would join in to stop the horrific processes that we were participating in.... all the world crashed into one bright moment of rage.  Four days Later, I would start to Awaken.

I was over at my best friend's house getting ready to play some Dungeons & Dragons.  I had spent the previous days fighting with the VA, having traveled 8 hours for them to fuck up my neuropsyche appointments, with no food or money, and having to travel back home empty handed.  When I wasn't dealing with the VA, I was fighting with anonymous people online who claimed to have known me in the service and doing my best to defend myself against their stupidity.  If I could get any angrier I would have turned large and green.

My buddy must have seen that I needed to calm down, so he made a marijuana joint and handed it to me.  I had never smoked before.  He told me to go outside and smoke the whole thing.  When I came back in, the world was a better place and I had probably the most fun I could remember in a long time.  While that night eased my transition into the waking world, I now had more to contend with than I had ever thought possible.  I was now against the people and the government that I loved, and it was because I followed the training and belief system that they gave me.

My faith, however, was dead.  God had abandoned me to this hell but even a soldier has his duty when all seemed lost.  I had my dreams taken from me, my hopes, my health.  The MRSA infection that I had gotten at the San Antonio Military Medical Center nearly killed me twice, and because I was susceptible to it, I wasn't sure when it would finally end me.  I had nothing else, so I decided to fight until the bitter end.

Six months after the Der Spiegel article, Edward Snowden made his appearance.  Which probably saved my hide by redirecting a ton of angst his way.  Though the attention that I was receiving was both good and bad (you'd be surprised at how many people have wanted to hook up with me, men and women), I ignored anything but the negative.  I was scared to get into a Julian Assange situation so I abstained from sex for over two years.  Since I had lost almost all of my friends and pretty much been excommunicated from my family, I had no other distractions.  Though I eventually fell into the trap of excessive video gaming to distract me from the pain and depression of loneliness, I was constantly wondering when my time would be up.

I wasn't hiding from anyone.  The threats I had been receiving were almost daily, mostly from fellow veterans and Christian conservatives.  I was coaching wrestling at one of the local high schools, though that ended because one of the parents went to the school faculty and claimed that I was a "traitor to the country," and because I wasn't christian I was a danger to her children.  Life just fell apart and kept falling apart.

Then I connected with a couple of veterans who claimed to be on my side and agree with me.  They were bitter and angry as well, and I could preach from my heart and not have to worry about judgement or disagreement. It was then that I had my first experience with MDMA, and I mistook the feelings that generated for love.  That experience ended in massive betrayal.

One of the veterans that I spent time with was a woman.  And while we did connect, she had been involved with another woman, and I was busy fighting my own fight.  We hung out with strippers and people that lived in the grey area of society.  I mention the strippers because they told me that for them it was a form of empowerment, they were in absolute control in a safe setting.  And I became friends with quiet a few of them, probably because I never made a move or tried anything.  They felt safe with me because of my issues with intimacy and closeness, and I learned that they are human beings like myself, struggling with life every day in their own way.

In February 2014, I had gotten the idea to do a male amateur night veteran fund raiser at the local strip joint.  Everyone thought it was a good idea, but I was the only one that actually went through with it.  Since the VA was snubbing me I needed a way to make money to pay bills.  I made $800 that night for shaking daddy's little money maker.  Then they hired me to do bachelorette parties around the Pacific Northwest.  For me, it wasn't about the sex, it was about taking control of my sexuality.  In a way it was me combating the women who took my choice of giving myself away, the ones who abused my innocence.  I never crossed the line with anyone, though I was solicited more than a few times, and once by the bride herself.  I was in control, and I denied them any gratification in taking any from me.  It cost me money a few times.  But in a weird way it was my control that mattered.  Now I can laugh at the absurdity of what I had to do before the VA finally came through.

***

I mention all of this because during this time I was traveling back and forth to Europe, I had spoken in front of the UN, and done a ton of other things, but my personal life was a mess.  An absolute mess.  The female veteran that I had fallen "in love" with under the influence of drugs destroyed me, but I still had my duty.  And even then, fighting against those artificially developed processes had been an uphill battle.  I was only able to get through it because of my ability to forgive, otherwise the madness of anger would have destroyed everything else about me.  I had been foolish to let myself be vulnerable to that degree.  My nightmares were also getting worse because I was speaking about my experiences all the time.  But again, I had believed in my duty so much, that I had deserved that pain and sorrow, I could make it through.  I had my reason why for the how.

In March 2015, I ended up with another girl, but this time was entirely selfish.  I was being stalked by some people and I had felt the need to get out of Missoula, so I went to another State and city entirely.  I met this girl on a dating site, stayed at her place for a few weeks, and ended up getting called by the FBI wondering where I was at.  They had told me that I wasn't in trouble and that I shouldn't tell anyone that they called me. So I called my lawyer as soon as I got off the phone with them.

With that event the girl realized what she had gotten into and whatever we could have had fell apart.  It didn't affect me, other than I felt guilty for using her, and so I was on my way back to Missoula shortly thereafter.  This was April of 2015.

When I got back to Missoula, I had an warrant for my arrest.  Back in December of 2014, I was walking my dog when he went up to greet a small chihuahua, and the small dog bit through his lip.  The guy kicked my dog in the head, then proceeded to scream at me and try to pick a fight with me.  He then reported me to the police for "beating my dog" got his neighbors to also give reports, and nearly got me thrown in prison for 6 months, according to the Judge.  The only thing that saved me was the security video footage.  My public defense attorney disappeared without a trace, gave me the wrong dates to show up to court, which got me the warrant.  I ended up standing up for myself  and somehow getting the prosecution to agree for a deferment (he was determined to put me behind bars because he "knew" i was guilty and the judge told me that being a Veteran with PTSD is just an excuse that weak men make), then left for Germany to testify to the German Bundestag. I was supposed to go earlier, but they had to delay it because I couldn't leave the county without handling this.

And I did it all on my own.  Thirty minutes after we leave the courthouse, I take my dog to the dog park and he gets attacked again.  I had to take him to the hospital because his front leg got tore up, and the dog/owner that did it disappeared immediately after it happened. It's almost like somebody was trying to fuck with me and delay my testimony. 

***

As we get closer and closer to the end, should we ask ourselves: To what is this ending worth?

Chasing Love and Revelations: A Reflection Part III

"The Light shines in the Darkness and the Darkness cannot overcome it."
-John 1:5


If you go into a dark room with a candle, the darkness gets pushed away.  The shadows come alive to dance.  But you cannot enter a room filled with light and bring darkness with you. Not any way that is natural.

I've talked with people all over the world about my story. It is dark, lonely, demanding, disorientating.  In those conditions I have thrived, not because I have lived in darkness, but because I had brought my own light. When the sun had set and the moon is new and the stars are lost behind the clouds, I have used my intuition and my upbringing to guide me forward.  Towards what end, I don't know, it's not the destination that matters.  Every road leads to home.

For me that Light has always been honor, integrity, and love.  I want to share these ideas with you.  I use a Biblical quote up top because it's true, no matter what the source, and my original source for my spirit was my Great Grandfather.  He taught me not just through words but through actions, and while I've fought many a monster, inside and outside, I always rely on his teachings as a platform for how I want to conduct my own life.

The Buddha also says, “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the single candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”  I've been in a VA inpatient treatment facility for over a month now, dealing with my grief and the resurgence of my PTSD.  I'm determined to conquer this, to show my superiority over myself and not let it control my life any longer.  Though the problems that happened between the Mother of my child and I are shared, and I believe can be overcome, I am mastering my end.  Not just because I have to, but because I want to.

I'm going to share what I've learned, but more than that, I'm going to share why I love this woman and why she holds that special place in my pantheon. We are opposites and equals. This is her story.  This is my Light.

***

I'm not sure where to begin other than she is a Bosnian woman through and through.  Dark humor and quick wit, stunning to the eyes and deadly to the heart.  There is a reason I call her My Dark Lady with reverence and a wee bit of fear.  There is a reason I love her with all my heart, mind, body, and soul.

Where I am an intuitive thinker, she is an intuitive feeler.  And while we are both highly analytical, she is more mind oriented and I am more soul oriented.  She is definitely the extrovert and I am the introvert. And where she is ordered I am chaotic.

She has this restless, creative energy inside her that wants to be brought out.  Her inner colors and shapes are like a kaleidoscope, able to subtlety enchant everyone around her.  And though on the surface she is upbeat and lighthearted, her inner darkness is deep and troubling due to past experiences and her chosen profession.

One thing I should have recognized is our intellectual styles and needs are very different.  Though we are both unconventional and like to wander off the beaten path, we both also have similar interests, we should have been using our strengths to bring harmony and balance into our lives instead of competing.  I think that because we're both highly intelligent that our stubbornness got into the way.  I also don't think we've never been in a relationship with another person who was equally as strong.  Which is a difficult thing to adjust to.  And I was also wounded.

She is a natural leader, I could see it wherever we went.  She wasn't used to taking orders from anyone. Her role in life is that of the Protector, always ready to jump into a fight to protect those she loves. Though sometimes overbearing, I know that she acted from her core whenever she saw me struggle. Where I am idealistic to the point of being naive, she grounded me from running off and wasting energy in trying to "save the world" as she would call it.  The anchor to my heart that I desperately needed.

Our upbringing also causes us to view the world differently.  Though my initiation into the terribleness of the real world only started in my adult life, she experienced it from a very young age. Her profession and dealing with the criminal and negligent aspects of Norwegian society contributed to her hard edge and judgmental eye, something that I didn't recognize about her until recently. The term that I learned is called the Tetris Effect. I believe that she had accrued some secondary trauma, and coupled with her primary trauma, jumped to conclusions of my behavior and thought processes.  She would occasionally see harm and hurt where there were none.  And I was too focused and distracted on insignificant matters to really understand.  Plus, until recently I had very little education of psychology outside of my own personal issues.

Neither of us like to conform to rules or expectations of others, which is a trait that I absolutely love about her.  However, we both have different tastes in styles and ideas that drive us forward in life.  She likes to dress elegantly, and for her I would too, but I prefer to dress simply, and moderately.  I think with all the differences that we have if we had focused on our hearts and gave one another unconditional love and respected one another for who we are and what we have overcome to be strong, we would be unstoppable.

Though my heart has been severely wounded, not in the least by her, I should have been more sensitive to her emotional needs.  Where I need my alone and quiet time to reorient myself, I should have been more vocal and communicative with my own needs as well. Sometimes I'm too lighthearted in things, and it doesn't mean I'm dismissive or disinterested, it's that I never hide my intent and I always try to keep my intentions positive.  If an issue is brought up and discussed then we come to a solution and that's it.  I took for granted that she is more affected by matters of the heart than she let on.  But here, again, I'm stupid, and because my own heart has been affected as drastically as it had been, I was too involved with trying to understand my own to recognize my mistakes.

Maybe that led to us to be competitive, unconsciously, instead of supportive.  Or maybe it came across that way to one another in our stubbornness.  Her saying things like, "I went through that when I was younger," sounded more condescending than encouraging.  A mistake all too commonly made by the human tendency towards negativity bias.  Where I should have recognized that Melissa relies on structure, discipline, and control of her own life to protect and care for those she loves, I rely on warmth, sacrifice, and forgiveness.  In that way she takes on the more typical masculine role of disciplinary parent and I would be classified as the feminine "soft" parent.  I think that my soft heartedness might have lead to her to lose respect for me.

While her love is no less powerful than my own, I continually tried to openly express it because that is what my Great Grandfather did.  The people that hurt me, I actively tried to forgive and let them know that I did forgive them.  And that my boundaries are drawn there.  If you've left my life, very rarely do I let you back in, though I profess no hard feelings towards you.  My Love, however, I'm not sure she could forgive.  Her upbringing was harsh and her family life never gave her an opportunity to express or explore that avenue.  I think that is one of the reasons that drives me is that I want her to know that I do love and forgive her.  And she is the only person that I would unconditionally let back into my life, if she would allow it. That is how great my love for her is.

However, I did start to feel like I was walking on eggshells and having anxiety.  Maybe it was hormones, maybe it was she couldn't see me for who I am.  I know she probably hasn't done some inner searching for understanding.  She had developed a disdain for it when one of her exes left unannounced to India to soul search and didn't come back for months.  I don't believe you need to go anywhere to find your soul, you just need to look inward.

 We are like Heaven and Earth.  I'm a dreamer, a bit philosophical, and full of unconventional ideas.  Melissa is practical, grounded, and goal-oriented.  She is what grounds me with her gravity and I am the one that pulls her up into the stars to see their majesty.  She offers me security, from mostly myself, and I offer her exploration of the uncharted abstract.  She gave me peace and comfort and stability when I was caught in the middle of a storm and being chased by pirates of the soul.  And I offer her the chance to overcome and love like never before.

***

Okay, that's enough analysis for today.  Maybe too much, but I do pay attention, sometimes it takes a while for me to produce the right words.  In the case of love and the heart, well, if it's true then it's never too late.

This here is my Light in the Darkness.  In my next piece, part IV, we're going as deep and dark as one can get.

Happy (early) Birthday, Duso Moja Mala.  I'm here, I love you and I'm always here.

Brandon.


"To care about someone doesn't mean you need to understand their thoughts. It means you see them as they are; as they are have the potential to be. You see and acknowledge the good part of their character and when you see the negative parts of their character, you accept it is there and know that life and experience will make those slowly fade away. You are there to help them through life, just like they you. Any experience shared is an experience remembered. Even though your hand cannot help at that point, your presence there is enough."

-Richard Cypher to Kahlan Amnel